By Jerry Kolber

My question this week: is it possible to experience joy in not getting what you want?  Or, to turn the sword of inquisition around, how can I personally have joy in my life while not getting what I want? 

And what would happen if I got “it”, the “it that I want”?  Well, I would feel thrilled, vindicated, ecstatic, powerful, strong, invincible.  Cool!  And then what?  I’d probably move on to wanting something else in short order (or at least to fearing losing it).  There is always something better, cuter, shinier, more pleasant, more meaningful right around the corner.  This is what we are dealing with in the human realm.  It’s what Shakyamuni Buddha so astutely pointed out twenty six hundred years... More...